Have you ever heard the saying that a person with a vision will perish if you have heard that same before.
Have you ever considered what it actually means when we don't have a compelling vision for our lives.
We can end up going round and round and round the same old circles.
This will end up leaving some people sticking in a dead end jobs staying in a completely empty loveless
lifeless relationship for and then up to a lifetime another's life coach is only to see our role as
being conduits and facilitators of change not creators of change.
We are not making people change.
We're just simply facilitating change.
All right.
So here don't want to share with you a vision and I'm going to do so hopefully by by sharing with you
an old proverb one that's really really grounded me and helped me to remain grounded over the years.
And it's this.
Have you ever heard the saying give them on a fish and he will eat for today.
Sure man.
How to catch fish and you'll feed him for a lifetime.
And if you've ever had that scene Have you considered what it actually means.
What are we only to look at this idea is the same as life coaches or aspiring life coaches or weathered
life coaches who've been practicing for years.
We can sometimes get so good at doing what we do coaching for example.
We could get really really good coaching people taking people through processes and techniques and guiding
them and we can master our communication skills and all that kind of stuff and get really good at giving
people fresh metaphorically speaking and what we can sometimes unknowingly do is end up creating cultures
of dependency around us.
And if you think about this all right.
Think about what a good parent would look like.
Words are good parents just simply be one who hands out to the children every single time their children
ask say for example you got seen a boy in a girl when they're saying Mummy Daddy Mummy Daddy I want
a new bike I want a pony I want all the sweets in the sweet shop and you just say Yes dear yes dear
yes dear and you keep on giving oath and you keep on giving oath and you keep on giving I what's gonna
happen when they reach 22 23 24 25 30.
Mommy Daddy I want a house I want a car I wanted this I want to know what I'm saying here is that a
good parent knows how to teach their child how to be responsible and in the same way a good life coach
knows how to teach their clients and show their clients how to take greater degrees of responsibility
for themselves.
No this is where many help and professionals and life coaches fail miserably.
Write some give me some insider secrets even you were right at the start of the course because what
many people do is get very very good in giving fresh giving fresh giving fresh and creating these dependency
based relationships where the clients end up coming back for years to come completely dependent on whatever
it is the life coach is casting out no this is not the vision that I have for you and I'm hoping that
it also isn't a vision that you have for your future clients because if we show people how to catch
fish then we can feed them for a lifetime and help them take responsibility for them selves and put
on coaching people that I've been coaching for over a decade know I always have an end and mind if you've
ever heard that saying start with end in mind.
So for me I've always got an outcome that I'm looking to establish especially when working with with
people how I'm gonna be gauge and my own effectiveness is by asking myself the question is this person
that I'm working with growing and maturity responsibility consistency decisiveness and ultimately and
strength of character because some clients are going to come to us and say things like I have a feeling
I don't feel very good will you make me feel better.
Will you help me to feel good.
And this is where coaching really differs and differentiates from from various forms of therapy or from
counseling though.
First things first.
As life coaches we can't make people feel anything.
Why.
Well I'm going to show you later on in the course how people are responsible for their own emotions
and also for creating them even if they don't understand this.
So when we show people how to take greater degrees of responsibility and ownership of their life they
become automatically empowered to become and create the degrees of change that they actually want to
see happen.
This more often than not isn't really going to happen unless we give our clients a vision for who it
is that they can go on to become.
All right.
No what I want isn't run on the board here and what I just want to then is a third level to this proverb
right.
This one hasn't made it into the history books but it might do with my name through it.
Who knows at some point in the future.
Could you imagine how you would feel in terms of how fulfilled you would feel inside of yourself if
you were to really create change in your society and your culture and your hometown your village a city
your nation or even in the world because of the way in which you lived your life.
Could you imagine or make an impact would even look like because here's a thing.
If we teach and if we can teach people how to teach people to fish we can end world hunger.
Think about that right.
Think of it just for two seconds because I'm going to step across the side of the board and now share
with you or perhaps discuss what your vision might look like for taking this course.
The reason why you're here.
What I ask you right now.
Have you ever considered what level of impact you personally want to make in life.
No.
Obviously having worked in this industry for quite a number of years and I have conversations with a
lot of people who've reached the stage where they've taken all the courses they've read all the books
they're ready for for doing something and the greatest vision that they have is setting up our life
coaching practice to think well if I can just go and get some clients from somewhere all will be well.
This is fine all right.
And that's where I started this is where most people start we've got to earn our stripes somewhere.
But at some point we've got to really have a look at the level of impact we want to make and what I
want to present you with.
Here are the three levels of impact.
There's the personal impact and transformation which is where you know perhaps you're taking this course
impact the quality of your own life.
You can be impacted within yourself.
And I'm going to present you with a whole lot of ideas throughout this course that if you apply to yourself
are really going to impact you.
I'm not going to change you.
You're only going to become change and impact that if you apply them within yourselves and what you
know was true for you is going to be true for the clients that you're going to work with.
Are you with me.
We cannot make people change right.
We cannot want more for the people than what they want for themselves.
People are either ready to change and a person will never change in life until their desire to change
becomes greater than their desire to remain the same.
People will generally never desire to change until they have a vision for their future that is greater
than where they are today.
Did you catch that one.
Don't worry if it didn't come back that later on.
So some people in life go through life with with a vision and this is to to feel nice to be okay to
feel picture than themselves and well starts okay.
It's not really particularly meaningful.
And what I'm saying is yes some people pursue happiness you know if you've ever heard the saying the
pursuit of happiness.
Is a dream that many people have and well starts okay is quite self-centered.
This is definitely not meaningful.
What may be meaningful for some people if they've never had happiness before.
While I'm going to suggest that it's not going to provide fulfillment in the long run.
All right.
Why.
Because unless we know and are able to see that we're actually making a positive impact in the lives
of other people or in the world at large we're never gonna be able to identify that we're actually being
value both in the world.
So here's the thing at some point we've got to move beyond our own selves been impacted our own personal
transformation and become these conduits of change that are actually facilitating change in other people.
Here with me and this kind of takes us on to the second level of impact we are never gonna be able to
impact other people or facilitate impact on other people beyond thought which we ourselves have been
impacted.
See for example I was to set myself up as a life coach and you really struggle with your personal finances
i.e. budgeting your in and out of debt all with time and you see Cain Cain come and help me with my
personal finances please.
I.
You're a life coach.
I'm broken.
I don't know how to do this.
Can you help me.
Well you know I could have all of it to all the tools and all the techniques and all of the exercises
to guide you through.
But then what would happen if you were to look at my bank accounts and see that I'm absolutely Brooke
with a couple hundred thousand pounds worth of debt that doesn't make me particularly credible does
it.
Absolutely not.
So it's only when we ourselves are impacted through applying principles in our lives that we're able
to guide other people through applying the principles in their lives they're going to know what questions
to ask us and we're not going to need to remember what the answers are to the questions of Alaska's
because we'll already know because we've applied the principles that they are looking to apply.
Are you with me.
All right.
So we fully move on to the second level of impact.
We start in think other people one to one this is kind of like your training ground.
Know what I'm gonna suggest is that this is perfectly normal.
The goal is as brilliant as fantastic if we can reach a stage in life where we are impacting other people.
We might do so through setting up a coaching practice but don't want to give you a right.
No is a vision for what you could potentially go on to become.
On the grandest global scale.
If in fact this is something even an even aspire to do.
The third level of impact that you as a help him practitioner or a coach can go on to make is cultural
national and global impact.
No.
Am I qualified to talk about this.
Well over the last 10 years I got into all of this you know study life coaching and help the social
sciences the modern psychology is cognitive psychology counselling.
I studied and trained in all of these things.
Why was I going to be completely honest with you.
Because I wanted to understand myself better or more effectively from the inside out.
This is what I wanted to know fast so I was on a personal journey of exploration and growth and all
these kinds of things.
I was just sick and tired of the way in which I had previously been living my life.
All right I saw what I'd spent about four four and a half years just immersed in the books and the various
educational establishments and back then you were able to access online training courses like what you're
able to.
Today.
You know I would have loved nothing more than to stumble upon someone like me all these years back hence
a reason.
You know I'm here for you today but I always had a dream I always hoped that at some point I'd be able
to make a positive difference in the world.
Come on if we're gonna be honest most people do.
There's a pretty good chance that you do too.
And what I'm saying is that when we just get clear on what our personal vision is it kind of gives us
a reason for keeping on keepin on if it makes sense because one thing I'll guarantee you I'm not the
perfect communicator I'm not the perfect coach All right but I am pretty darned experienced all right.
And if you do have a vision for going on in facilitating by the cultural national or global change then
you can do so through setting up social enterprises various initiatives and we can talk about them through
the course.
I've already done all this I started by being impacted within myself as I apply the principles that
I was learning and then I went on to set up a one on one coaching practice which I operated and worked.
I've taught for many years beyond.
Then I got a little bit tired of just working with one person at a time.
It was okay.
I was given people a fish feed them for a day.
I was also showing some people how to fish.
Teaching them how to life how to fish for a lifetime but then guess what happens when I started recording
videos like this and created these online courses well you know I hosted them on the website and the
platform that you're watching this through right now which might be Udemy or ecology or somewhere like
that.
And no.
I know today I teach people how to teach people how to fish and when to be completely honest with you.
All right.
This wasn't planned.
It was one of the best mistakes that ever made.
But I've gone on to make a global impact.
Whether you like this course or whether you're doing.
There's I think around about 75000 people all around the world.
No not just study in this course but half study that in the past on a reply in the principles.
What I'm saying.
Right.
This isn't about impressing you with what I've done it's just impressing upon you that the size and
scale of the vision that we have for a future is going to determine the next set of action steps that
we take and assaulted.
We can determine how committed we remain to the process.
Are you with me.
No I'm talking on two different levels here.
I'm talking to you personally as an existing life coach or as an aspiring life coach and I'm also talking
about what you need to understand to help you manage your expectations of the clients that you're going
to work with because if your clients don't have a vision that's much beyond just wanting to feel better
within themselves.
Guess what.
There's nothing you can do for them anyway.
Are you with me.
Does this make sense.
I hope we've got there in the end.
Listen we're going to wrap this video up for now because I've dropped the whole lot of nuggets your
way and I'm hoping that you've perhaps even taken a few notes if you haven't.
Just visit the additional down Lord's materials sanction off this video.
What you're going to find is it's like a course journal logbook where I'm going to urge you to do is
if you download and printed out.
Go old school on us is simply take notes of any aha moments.
Any little nuggets that are through your way of which is most likely going to be quite a few and what
many people like to do is work through courses like this twice first time round just literally allow
yourself to benefit from the experience just take in as much as what you can.
Second time round take the course from the perspective of looking at how you can take and extract the
principles from and start applying them in the context of a coach practice or a world changing initiative.
If that's even something that you'd be willing to consider.
So that's all for now.
I look forward a senior in the next video where we're going to start unpacking this little idea and
a bit more depth.